Rationale of Abusive Behavior
Abusers are very good at making excuses for the inexcusable. They will blame their abusive and violent behavior on a bad childhood, a bad day, and even on the victims of their abuse.
Abusers show that they lost control because they were so angry and they will make women realize it is their fault.
He will commonly shift the responsibility on to you: Somehow, his violent and abusive behavior is your fault.
Your abusive partner may minimize the abuse or deny that it occurred.
Abuser will use tactics to make you feel bad about yourself or consider you defective in some way.
Abuser will erode your self-esteem and make you realize you’re worthless and that no one else will want you so you accept the abuse as your fate.
They provoke women for a reaction, then claim it as evidence of mental instability, that implies it’s the victim who is at fault.
Perpetrators who can justify their behaviors are at increased risk for future perpetration.