When to Respond

When to Respond

When to Respond

Speak up if you suspect domestic violence or abuse

Speak up if you suspect domestic violence or abuse

If you suspect that someone you know is being abused, speak up! If you’re hesitating—telling yourself that it’s none of your business, you might be wrong, or the victim might not want to talk about it—keep in mind that expressing your concern will let her know that you care and may even save her life.Talk to her in private and let her know that you’re concerned. Point out the things you’ve noticed that make you worried. Tell her that you’re there, whenever she feels ready to talk. Reassure her that you’ll keep whatever is said between the two of you, and let her know that you’ll help in any way you can.Remember, abusers are very good at controlling and manipulating their victims. People who have been emotionally abused or battered are depressed, drained, scared, ashamed, and confused. They need help to get out, yet they’ve often been isolated from their family and friends. By picking up on the warning signs and offering support, you can help them escape an abusive situation and begin healing.

Do’s Don’ts
Ask if something is wrong
Ask if something is wrong
Express concern
Judge or blame
Listen and validate
Pressurize her
Offer help
Give advice
Support her decisions
Place conditions on your support