by admin | Dec 3, 2022 | Uncategorized
Recognizing when others are being abused. It’s impossible to know with certainty what goes on behind closed doors, but there are some telltale signs and symptoms of emotional abuse and domestic violence. If you witness these warning signs of abuse in a friend, family member, or co-worker, take them very seriously.
Warning signs of abuse in other people who are being abused may:
Seem afraid or anxious to please their partner
Go along with everything their partner says and does
Check-in often with their partner to report where they are and what they’re doing
Receive frequent, harassing phone calls from their partner
Talk about their partner’s temper, jealousy, or possessiveness
Warning signs of physical violence:
People who are being physically abused may:
Have frequent injuries, with the excuse of “accidents”
Frequently miss work, school, or social events without explanation
Dress in clothing designed to hide bruises or scars (e.g. wearing long sleeves in the summer or sunglasses indoors)
Warning signs of isolation:
People who are being isolated by their abuser may:
Be restricted from seeing family and friends
Rarely go out in public without their partner
Have limited access to money, credit cards, or the car
The psychological warning signs of abuse: People who are being abused may:
Show major personality changes (e.g. an outgoing person becomes withdrawn)
Be depressed, anxious, or suicidal
by admin | Dec 3, 2022 | Uncategorized
Punjab
The following statistics represent the number of VAW cases in Punjab in 2015, which go as:
- Cases of rape were 2,720
- Cases of honor killings were 173
- Cases of acid throwing are 22
- Burning cases are 35
- Cases of beating were 588
Khyber Pakhtunkhwa:
The following statistics represent the number of VAW Cases in Khyber Pakhtunkhwa, in 2015, which go as:
- Cases of gang-rape and rape are 32 & cases involving attempted rape are 20
- Cases of honor-killing are 987
- Cases of violence as according to cities of KPK are, incidents of violence in Peshawar are 104, in Mardan 35, in Kohat 14 and in Mansehra 11.
Sindh
The following statistics represent the number of VAW Cases in Sindh, which go as for last three years as:
- Cases of gang-rape and rape are 344
- Cases of honor-killings are 860
- Incidents of acid-burning are 90
- Burning cases 72
- Cases of violence against women are 535 with specified cases of domestic violence being 481
Balochistan
The following Statistics represent the number of VAW Cases in Balochistan in 2015, which go as:
- Cases of gang rape, rape, harassment, sodomy, stripping are 939
- Burning (acid attacks, set on fire) cases are 143
- Domestic Violence (acid attack, amputation, beating, edged tool attack, murder bids, set on fire, shaving, shot etc.) are 279
PDHS Survey
According to PDHS 2017-18, one of every five women in Pakistan are subjected to physical violence, a third of all married women go through it, as well. Following are some key findings of PDHS Survey
- 28% of women age 15-49 have experienced Physical Violence since age 15.
- 6% of women age 15-49 have experienced Sexual Violence since age 15.
- 7% of women have experienced violence during pregnancy.
- 8% of ever-married women report that their husbands display three or more specific types of controlling behaviours.
- 34% of ever-married women have experienced spousal physical, sexual, or emotional violence.
- The most common type of spousal violence is emotional violence (26%), followed by physical violence (23%).
- 5% of women have experienced spousal sexual violence.
- 26% of ever-married women have sustained injuries. Cuts and bruises are the most common types of injuries reported.
- 56% of affected women never sought any help or talked with anyone about resisting or stopping the violence.
Pakistan has been enlisted among the worst performers ranking Pakistan 151 out of 153 countries (Global Gender Gap Index Report 2020 by World Economic Forum). Pakistan was at 112th number in 2006. The report focuses on four areas: educational attainment (Pakistan’s ranking is 143rd); health and survival (149th); and political empowerment (93rd); economic participation and opportunity (150th).
by admin | Dec 3, 2022 | Uncategorized
Domestic abuse falls into a common pattern or cycle of violence:
Cycle of Violence/Abuse against Women
Domestic abuse falls into a common pattern, or cycle of violence:
Abuse – Your abusive partner lashes out with aggressive, belittling, or violent behaviour. Abuse is a power play designed to show you who the boss is.
Guilt – After abusing you, your partner feels guilt, but not over what he has done. He’s more worried about the possibility of being caught and facing consequences for his abusive behaviour.
Excuses – Your abuser rationalizes what he has done. The person may come up with a string of excuses or blame you for the abusive behaviour – anything to avoid taking responsibility.
“Normal” behaviour – The abuser does everything he can to regain control and keep the victim in the relationship. He may act as if nothing had happened, or he may turn on the charm. This peaceful honeymoon phase may give the victim hope that the abuser has really changed this time.
Fantasy and planning – Your abuser begins to fantasize about abusing you again. He spends a lot of time thinking about what you’ve done wrong and how he’ll make you pay. Then he makes a plan for turning the fantasy of abuse into reality.
Set-up – Your abuser sets you up and puts his plan in motion, creating a situation where he can justify abusing you.
Your abuser’s apologies and loving gestures between episodes of abuse can make it difficult to leave. He may make you believe that you are the only person who can help him, that things will be different this time, and that he truly loves you. However, the dangers of staying are very real.
by admin | Dec 3, 2022 | Uncategorized
White Ribbon Pakistan is a men’s movement for ending violence against women and girls. We are working with a different approach to counter the issue of violence by addressing the patriarchal mindset of individuals and society. We believe that men’s involvement in our initiative is a prerequisite to combating violence against women. Justice can be provided by those who do injustice because they have the power to do both. It is not sufficient to create awareness about women’s rights among women only but it is also necessary to engage men to challenge the unfair power relations that promote gender-based violence. Men even in instances where they are not a part of the problem can bring forth the solution by persuading others to question and stop violence against women in every form
Both men and women from all walks of life, who are willing to end gender based violence in Pakistan through changing the culture that lead to violence against women, can join the “White Ribbon Ambassador and champion Programme”.
People from different background, skills and knowledge are encouraged to be ambassador to strengthen communities and creating lasting positive change.
We will give you training about carrying out the role.
Provide you access to a variety of online materials and resources.
We will keep you up to date with White Ribbon news and developments.
Invite you to the White Ribbon events and activities.
We will listen to your suggestions and feedback.
We will award you with a certificate of ambassador.
- Use White Ribbon Pin, logo and resources that are provided as directed.
- Raising awareness, lead and advocate to end all kinds of violence against women.
- Speaking out against all forms of violence against women, as well as being involved in activities that promote women’s safety and wellbeing.
- Engaging and supporting men to involve in the movement through promoting (online/offline) and participating in the activities that can bring a change in society.
- Campaigning at the local and national level to promote that women’s safety is a men’s issue too.
- To promote the White Ribbon through engaging and educating your peers and challenge sexism in everyday life.
- Speak about ending violence against women at community events, TV programs, social media and where possible.
- Act as a positive role model for other men and boys by actively engaging in positive behaviour and actions towards women.
- Use White Ribbon presentation and material as well as follow guidelines for other events.
- Encourage people especially men to take the White Ribbon Pledge. To keep in touch with White Ribbon and offer feedback, suggestions and advice.
White Ribbon Ambassadors will be selected for a period of one year. Every year, we will renew your ambassadorship and provide you with another certificate.
If you no longer wish to be an Ambassador or if you need to take a break from your role you will have to inform White Ribbon by submitting a formal request
Minimum Specific Deliverables
- You will talk about violence against women on social media at least once a month tagging White Ribbon in your posts.
- As an ambassador or champions of White Ribbon, you will talk about gender-based violence at any event at least once a quarter.
- You will wear White Ribbon Pin during media and public appearances.
- The Ambassadors and Champions will be required to connect with us once a month to plan and discuss the activities and give feedback.
- You will persuade the maximum people especially men to take the White Ribbon Pledge.
If you are interested in becoming a White Ribbon Ambassador or champion, the first step is to pledge “never to commit, excuse & remain silent about violence against women”.
- You will always adhere to the White Ribbon Values and will make sure people know that you are a volunteer, not an expert.
- You will never share any confidential or sensitive information that is disclosed to you in your role as an Ambassador.
- You will not accept gifts, money or any item of value from anyone in connection with your role as an Ambassador.
- You will avoid any act in any way that could bring White Ribbon into disrepute.
- By agreeing to the code of conduct you will be making the declaration “that nothing in my past or current personal life would damage the credibility of White Ribbon Pakistan”.
Register with us by filling up a form
Take White Ribbon Pledge and agree to our code of conduct
Certificate Award Ceremony and the announcement in the media (traditional and social media)
If you are interested in becoming a White Ribbon Ambassador, please contact us.
Email: info@whiteribbon.org.pk
Mobile: 03354887775
Phone: 042 35883570-2
Office Address: 2/12 M-Block, Gulberg III, Lahore.
Or fill out our form so that we can get back to you:
by admin | Nov 28, 2022 | Uncategorized
“Toxic masculinity” (sometimes called “harmful masculinity”) is often used as a catch-all term for the behaviours of men and masculine folks.
In reality, though, there’s plenty of room for someone to be masculine without being toxic or engaging in behaviour that’s dangerous or hurtful.
So what does the phrase actually mean? The popular term points to the very real problems of male violence and sexism.
If you think about the common narrative around men and boys that teaches them that boys don’t cry or that they should be able to walk it off, take it like a man under any circumstance, you could imagine how the habitual practice of not telling about your pain or worries could have significant implications.
There are downstream consequences of lacking a healthy outlet to dispense negative emotions. When you’re bottled up all the time, it’s like Whac-a-Mole. It will reappear in another way.
Common Traits of Toxic Masculinity
Traits of toxic masculinity include themes of:
- Mental and physical toughness
- Aggression
- Stoicism, or not displaying emotion
- Self-sufficiency
- Emotional insensitivity
Societal impact
While toxic masculinity definitely has effects on individuals, it can also have larger societal impacts.
Here are just a few of these impacts. Keep in mind that, while toxic masculinity plays a contributing role in these issues, it isn’t always the sole cause.
Rape culture
Toxic masculinity ideology tends to treat women as sexual objects, contributing to ongoing issues, like rape culture.
This refers to the tendency to remove blame from sexual assaulters and place it on the victim. “Boys will be boys” might sound harmless when it comes to kids roughhousing on the playground. But it can be used as an excuse for violent behavior or not respecting boundaries.
Violence
Toxic masculinity also teaches men and masculine folks that aggression and violence are key to solving problems — unless you want to appear weak.
The resulting violence, which can show up in many forms, including intimate partner violence, can have far-reaching effects on those who aren’t even directly involved.
Social exclusion
Again, there are plenty of men who do not exhibit toxic masculinity. Still, these individuals may be negatively affected by those who display those traits in the form of social exclusion. Especially among children and teens, those who don’t fit inside that predetermined box of what it means to be masculine might find themselves disliked because of it.
Addressing it
There’s no single answer to addressing the problem of toxic masculinity. Doing so requires societal shifts around several things, including gender stereotypes and the stigma surrounding mental health.
But, if you’re a man, there are a few things you can do to reduce the impact of toxic masculinity in both your own life and the lives of those around you:
- Be okay with acknowledging where you are. Everyone has a starting point. There’s no way to change or move forward if you aren’t able to be honest about the things you want to change. Maybe you weren’t a skilled communicator in past relationships. Or maybe you’ve relied on your physical size or strength to intimidate others. Don’t beat yourself up for your past actions. Put your attention on where you currently stand and how you can move forward.
- Have tough conversations. Ask your friends their perspective on how you handle tough situations or your biases in relation to masculinity. Do your part not to get defensive, and really listen to how your actions have impacted others. You might be surprised that certain things you did or said came across differently from how you intended.
- Do the work. Above all, undoing toxic masculinity as a man involves being true to yourself, not some false idea of the person you should be. Finding your true self is a process that takes time. A therapist can guide you through this process and help you alter unhelpful thinking patterns.
by admin | Nov 25, 2022 | Uncategorized
For the first time in Pakistan, White Ribbon, which is part of global men’s movement present in over 50 countries for ending violence against women and girls, has announced the launch of White Ribbon Workplace Gender Inclusion Awards for corporate sector in Pakistan.
Talking to the media Founder and President of White Ribbon Mr. Omer Aftab said that these awards will be presented annually to companies which use their position to advocate for gender equality and take steps to advance women’s empowerment. These awards are being launched on November 25, the White Ribbon Day for the Eradication of Violence against Women.
Mr. Aftab further added that White Ribbon Awards will be presented annually to the companies which advocate for gender equality and take steps to advance women’s empowerment at workplace. The awards will celebrate and acknowledge the best practices and policies of corporates that take part and highlight gender justice and gender inclusion for their workforce, customers, community and through their CSR and brand communication and advertisements.
All organisations that work on gender equality and have shown a positive impact regarding women empowerment at workplace are eligible to apply for these awards. There are three categories of White Ribbon Awards: Gender Inclusive Workplace, Gender Responsive Marketplace and Community Engagement and Partnerships. For all categories, survey forms will have to be submitted online. Finalists will be selected based on independent ranking system. ##
Editor’s note:
Violence against women is a shameful reality across the world. Mostly it is committed by men. It is rooted in gender inequalities, and it still far too often goes unnoticed and unchallenged. The White Ribbon Campaign exists to change this.
Men and boys wearing the White Ribbon declare that they will never commit, excuse, or remain silent about men’s violence against women. White Ribbon is one of the world’s largest male-led campaigns to end men’s violence against women. It started in 1991 in Canada, and is now active in over 50countries across the globe. Every year it is growing stronger as more men and boys realise that women’s and girls’ safety is their issue too.
